I’m starting to get it, starting to get her, starting to get why things are the way they are. Sadly, it’s taken months, years actually, as well as a lot screaming, shouting, crying and heartache to see the light.
I used to think I have a love-hate relationship with my mum. Now, I’m starting to realise it has always been about love, I just kept going at it the wrong way, albeit understandably so.
Mum is in her 70s. She’s starting to feel her age, lamenting that she’s “got one foot in the ground”. Like many others her age who are stricken with illnesses, she has become more negative, more grouchy, more naggy. Desperate to find answers to why and how to help her get out of this funk, I turned to Google. I searched for answers by typing “how to deal with negative people”, “always angry”, and I got some answers. But there were still so many questions and things between us were’t getting any better. I then tried searching “difficult parents”, “depression in elderly” and I got a whole lot of new insight.
Firstly, I found out that I wasn’t alone. My online search threw up loads os personal stories on online forums about their “difficult parent”.
I am starting this blog in the hope of letting others know that if they are facing difficulities communicating with and caring for their elderly parents, they are not alone. And they don’t have to do it all on their own.
Until my next post… Stay strong. You are not alone.